From a Compliment to Magic Powers
“Mommy, I can’t believe how much my legs growed today.” These were the last words out of Luke’s mouth as he faded into oblivion after an exercise, fun-filled day in McCall, Idaho this past weekend.
The day started with a three-hour hike in Ponderosa State Park. My little guy was doing quite well in keeping up with his parents as we strolled along the winding, rocky trails with lovely lake views. He was happily frolicking in front of me when I casually commented on how long his legs looked. Apparently the gene for tallness is highly revered among seven year olds, or at least ones who are shorter than most of their classmates. He was so ecstatic at the thought of being taller that he had an extra kick to his step for the remainder of the hike, providing frequent sound bites like: “The reason I’m hiking so well today is because my legs are so long.” And “I’ve become a really good runner because legs are growing.” And “I can jump up on this rock because I’m so tall.” I’m sure you get the picture.
Through his joy of “being taller,” I realized that seemingly unimportant words can mean a lot to someone. A small, seemingly meaningless compliment can make another person’s day, even if we don’t realize it. In fact, a kind comment can have the power to alter someone’s frame of reference about him or herself.
So much of our outlook on life – our optimism and confidence – is driven by our own, internal self-talk. By the mere of longer legs, Luke’s entire perception of his own height changed. His stature had increased at least a foot in his mind though his actual height hadn’t changed a millimeter. And that increased height also gave him powers to run faster, jump higher and hike stronger.
What if we, too, envisioned ourselves with magical powers, or at the very least, the capability to accomplish what seems like the impossible? Do you think Rory McIlroy envisioned an 8 stroke win and setting 12 scoring records at the US Open after a collapse at the Masters? Do you think Rafa Nadal thought he could win the first set of the French Open Final when he was down 5-2 to Federer? Or did Dirk Nowitzki plan on making game winners in the NBA Final with a 102 degree temperature? I’m guessing in every instance, these “winners” envisioned themselves with a check mark in the “W” column, regardless of the odds.
Children always have a way of reminding us of the little joys we adults often fail to notice. But this time, my little sweetie reminded me that we should also believe in ourselves and others more than we often do. Whether it’s on the tennis court, on the running trails, or at the office, we can accomplish many goals if we envision ourselves with longer legs, faster speeds or bigger brains!
Take the time to share a kind word with another. Those small gestures may be just what the person needs to hit a winner.
Melinda,
I just love your insight about the power of words. And your attitude of "just go get it" is an inpiration to go out and excercise. Thank you! 
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Earlier this spring, I was finishing up 6 tough miles, and about a half a mile from home, a woman getting into her car yelled, “you are so inspiring to me!”
I can’t tell you how often that woman still gets me through tough runs…
I loved reading this…so true! great pic of Luke
Melinda,
I just love your insight about the power of words. And your attitude of “just go get it” is an inpiration to go out and excercise. Thank you!